Trauma Survivors Weekend

Intensive three day workshop based on the pioneering work of
Pia Mellody (Survivors)

This programme has been developed to deal with traumatic childhood issues which create co-dependence. The roots of co-dependence are lodged in childhood and its primary feature is “abandonment of self”, which means adapting ourselves to fit in with others. The rules in a dysfunctional, co-dependent family are:

“Don’t talk”

“Don’t feel”

“Don’t trust”

As a result, co-dependents do not know who they are, or what they feel. In co-dependent families, children can’t be children. They are taught to temper their natural selves to accommodate dysfunctional adults. The resulting defeating self-talk is often 'there’s something wrong with me', 'it’s all my fault', 'I don’t fit in'.

Who is this for?

Healing the wounds of childhood

Ultimately, a co-dependent person is trying to heal the wounds of childhood in present day life. These wounds are the effects of abuse on the developing self. In other words, the consequences of a child being treated in a less than nurturing way.

We very often recreate our family of origin in our adult relationships: partners, friends, workplace, where we try to unconsciously change the person(s) we are in a relationship with to become the parent who didn’t fulfil our (childhood) needs. We often choose partners who resemble our opposite sex parents – either abandoning or enmeshing – and the pattern is replicated so we are in a similar situation. It is only when we work on and have a good relationship with ourselves that we can make healthier choices, or change the situation we are in. The more we fulfil our own needs, the less we need others to fill the void of unmet needs in childhood.

This weekend programme can play a significant part in letting go of childhood trauma, carried energy that doesn’t belong to us (e.g. shame, anger, guilt and pain) and enable us to re-parent ourselves so that we are not always searching outside of ourselves.

This treatment can also have a significant effect on reducing depression and crucially help to prevent relapse into addiction, if it is present.

Next Workshop: 28th-30th July. Contact Us for details.

Symptoms of codependency

  • Low self esteem
  • Fear of conflict
  • Needing others' approval
  • Addiction problems
  • Difficulty setting limits with self/others
  • Inability to say "no"
  • Helping others to the detriment of self
  • Problems identifying own needs/wants
  • Feeling of wanting to be looked after
  • Problems decision-making

How does it work?

Participants learn to identify and address family of origin issues which have formed over many years. The programme enables the individual to resolve some of the grief, shame and anguish of their early traumatic experiences. This allows the individual to participate and function more fully with self and others. It also renders the participant able to identify when they have a trauma response/reaction in everyday life, and how to manage it.

Where does it come from?

This programme is based on Pia Mellody’s Post Induction Therapy, which is widely used in the USA. The approach uses an eclectic mix of techniques with elements of psychoanalytic, gestalt, family systems, transactional analysis and rational emotive therapy with concepts from Erikson and Rogers.

 


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